Christmas is meant to be the highlight of the year, but for some, it really isn’t. We are inundated with media images of love, joy, togetherness, that highlights what life “should” be about, but for most really isn’t. And in truth, the year-end brings on a huge amount of stress; deadlines, money issues, family and fertility issues which leaves many women feeling extremely helpless.
Alongside that, we all have people in our circles who seem to have it all worked out. The one with very little or no care in the world, the perfect family with a football team of kids, and often, this will conjure up painful reminders of what we might be missing in our own worlds. December is a time of year where many are dealing with painful break-ups, family conflicts, loneliness, mental health concerns and loss.
With loss comes depression, which is magnified during the festive season, so we have outlined five real holiday blues scenarios and ways to identify these and deal with them:
- Be mindful and grateful for everything you have, and do NOT focus on what you don’t have. Understand that there will always be someone who has more, but realising too that there are a lot who have less than yourself will make you sincerely take stock of what is really important. Gratitude is the best cure for depression.
- Don’t take too much on. Taking too much on at the end of the year when you are already fatigued and spent from a busy year is a sure-fire way to a breakdown hormonally and emotionally. If you are already anxious, stressed and experience sleepless nights, this can really tip you over the edge. Learn to manage expectations, and delegate some of your “to-do” list to your family and friends… and don’t forget to be kind to yourself please.
- Take care of yourself. For most, December is the most stressful month, as workload increases because offices shut down, life and work pressures increase and diaries are full with social gatherings and our fitness regime goes out the window! To add fuel to the fire, we eat junk and drink excessively which in turn triggers stress, anxiety and depression. As hard as it is, make sure you set time aside every day to for “YOU” time. Meditate, go for long walks, visualise your happy future.
- Comparing yourself to others is never healthy. This is something we all do at times, but you need to nip this in the bud. We are all different, we all have less or more than others, we all buy into each others hype on Social Media, and often the glam life we imagine everyone else is living, is far from the truth. Don’t sell yourself short, and be happy with who YOU are. This too shall pass and you must remember that. Life will happen as it is meant to happen. Believe in yourself, believe in your future, and keep faith that it will all work out!
- We do not choose our family. Accept that. And understand that sometimes they will not live up to your expectations. Minimise family strife by avoiding having “the talk” about issues while celebrating with family and friends. Ask your family too, to be mindful of your situation if you are struggling with your own fertility issues. Also, remember, bringing up dirty laundry at Christmas lunch really isn’t appropriate, so do your best to avoid conflict. Remember too that you are probably not the only one feeling blue, stressed or anxious.
Stress and depression can ruin your festive season and put a lot of strain on your fertility journey. Take steps to prevent stress and depression by being honest about what triggers you, and figure out the steps to take in order to cope or avoid inner and outer conflict. Forget about what you cannot control, and remain positive through your own struggles. Remember too, without rain, we would never have rainbows. Don’t give up.
We wish you love and light this festive season.
Love EDSA x